Wednesday, December 10, 2008

Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind

Crooning on my STEREO: Nuotando Nell'aria by Marlene Kuntz

Dear friends,

You might have stumbled onto this site because you were concerned. Or curious. And I do appreciate you being here. During the time when I returned from my studies in Perugia till the time when I first moved to Munich for a great job, I have abandoned this site briefly because I didn't have much to write.

But who would have thought that now I would be hanging on to this for dear life.

My decision to suspend my Facebook account is to give me interim. I know that cutting off from a network may come across as offensive to some, but I just want to let you all know that I do care. This is something that has to be done even if it is against my initial will.

I am sorry for everything.

It is only best for everyone. And I know good friends will always find a way to connect to me somehow. I am sorry that I have to be selfish.

The past 5 weeks was pivotal. There is also so much that I wish I could share with you, but what you know about what really happened with Gio was only 70% of the whole story. As for the rest, I can only tell you in the form of a bittersweet film.

Which is why some of you may wonder why I can't get over it. And fretting as to why I am carrying so much of emotional burden. And perplexed as to why I am punishing myself.

"Why can't this girl put herself together? It's so trivial!"

I know that for as long as I remained online, I would seek him. Even though I know fully well that he is free to connect with his past loves, it somehow hurts me so bad. I have done everything possible to curb my self destructive trail, but nothing could calm my god forsaken heart.

Because she truly is beautiful. And I am not.

This should never be surprising. I have lost many men in my life and I have been rejected more times than you can imagine, so why should this be any different?

Because I loved him. I wanted to marry him. He thought of marrying me. We wanted kids together. He was the man who showed me that happiness is nothing equivalent to buying a Porsche. And all that we needed was just each other; I didn't need all the material comfort I was showered with from birth. I could abandon all my luxuries because loving him was so simple and pure.

My happiness was him. And because of him, I knew love was happiness.

Within the turn of two years he had hurt me. He chose to give up my love so that he could give his love to another girl. And now I can barely accept that I will ever be good enough for anyone whom I will be able to fall in love with. I have, pretty officially, morphed into a wreck.

At this point, Gio is no longer the enemy. My biggest enemy would be myself.

My friends and family have stood by me from the very beginning. But there will also come a time when i will have to walk this journey alone. It is indeed a very long road ahead for girl who once believed that she could overcome every obstacle that came her way.

Life is never always rosy. Loss is something that is permanent, and can never be replaced. Just like death.

It is now time for me to fight the rest of the battle on my own in every route to recovery. Please understand that it is now crucial for me to abandon my online presence in the meantime so that I can feel what is truly real, and not imagined.

This trauma is equivalent to that of cancer. You can always battle a tumor but it is also something where one can never recover fully but is able to triumph with time. It is never always physically, but often mentally.

Trust me, this is something I know very well. I have to fight for my life.

It all takes courage. I vow to seek the smiling girl who once left on a plane to Malaga in 2004, without a care in the world. She would be happy, and never burdened.

God willing that I will return into your lives one day.

Lots of love and God bless,
Lyn xxx

16 comments:

mistipurple said...

you will be strong, because you are, lyn.
we'll be rooting you on.
xxx

KY said...

and we shall have a drink at bangsar or changkat bukit bintang or something

on second thought, make it several drinks.

Sabrina Adam said...

Happiness will seek you once again because you deserve to be happy... May God bless you...

Hugs,
Sab

car@ said...

Sweet baby, the road we choose in this life is the one that leads you to the next....so stand tall. Unfortunatelly, something similar it has happened to us all, and we have managed to live again. You will, you just need time. It is good you choose that time for yourself, it will help you to know you more deeply. I'll be there always for you, and i'm waiting for Nikky beach this summer! :-*
love you so much!!

serene sadness said...

I've been a silent reader of your blog. Just want you to know that YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL...! God bless...

anna r said...

just like serene, i have been a silent reader of your blog in the last couple of weeks.

we once went to the same school, shared the same friends and played in the same sports. i admit, we were never close. to be honest, we were merely acquaintances. we've kept in touch through mutual friends, friendster and facebook.

it was by chance that i stumbled across your blog when you posted the web add on your facebook status.

your pain spoke out to me. i understand. and i want you to know that although i don't know the full story of what happened, i can assure you that your inner beauty outshines all the imperfections and flaws that men are so easily blinded by.

i see pictures of you and you shine. it could be the drinks (;p) but you do. you will get past this.

you may be weak now, but with the help and support of the people who care, you will regain your strength.

God bless you.

Anna
xoxo

Reuben Yap said...

Lyn...I know we haven't been all that close recently but trust us when we say that we're all here for you. I believe this to be the case with all the genuine friends you have here :D

At least for me, no full explanations if you don't feel like sharing though if you do, I'm sure we're all here for you.

Either way, all I want is for you to be happy again and that crazy Lyn I knew in Notts:D. Don't be a stranger Lyn and appreciate your post updating us all.

<3

Jolenesiah said...

hugs... i know u will be strong... everyone r looking forward to see u being strong again

take care

P.s: i just came back from holiday...

Wai Kwan said...

Just hope that u can love urself more. I am pretty sure u can find ur way out. Cheer up! Your friends are always here.

Mrs Torres said...

i miss u! cant wait to see u soon!!!!



xoxo

car@ said...

Lyn! how are you babe? already in Malasyia? tell me how did it go with those meetings!! i am on holidays for this week and seeing everyine , sorry i haven't come much in here.
Love you, will call you.

Cara

mistipurple said...

merry christmas lyn, and a fab 2009. wish you loads of happiness and good cheer in 2009. you can do it! rahrahrah gal!

Mirebella said...

How you doing babe? Season Greetings and do have a great New Yr /Hugs

Wandering Piccola said...

carissima lyn,

you'll have to be strong and i have to too. there's no love and friendship where i'm at now and it doesn't help that i'm stalking this napolitano gypsy because i can't help it and there's nowhere else to go to onboard.

take good care. being sad is alright. but once we've make peace with this sadness, perhaps we'll stay sane.

auguri,
ying

Anonymous said...

Dear sweet lyn;
I sorry to hear about your situation;
but I'm sure you will find some one who care and loves you,
it is just a matter of time.
you are a beautiful and intelligent person, many men will go crazy for you. now try to enjoy the present moments with the people you love your friends and family

saludos y abrazos pedro

Yng Lyn said...

I love you all, I really do. thanks for helping me to move on.

I hope I wont let you down.